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I think that many people just want to have someone so badly that they do not take time to just "date around" to see who fits best. I went trough quite a bit of boyfriends from age 15-20, then dated Kevin for 6.5 years and up until the last year we were best friends. Lived together for 6 years as well. I would say we are still real cool with each other and possibly might end up together again at some point, but people just need breaks from each other I think. haha

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one of the biggest factors in the end of my last relationship was my propensity towards speaking my mind and pulling no punches. Many women can dish out criticism at every turn but few can take it even in a constructive manner. best way to deal with that mystery bullshit is to just leave it at "its cool you dont have to tell me, just dont be surprised when this shit happens again". haha
A relationship gets boring if arguing doesn't occur in regards to both dishing out, I have found myself just starting shit so we can laugh about it later:p:rolleyes:
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arguing is healthy, it means you both give a shit about keeping your chemistry alive. but being straight up confrontational about shit that you know will not change is just bitchy. idunno sometimes i feel like humans have two primal instincts, fucking and killing. Spend enough time fucking someone, that other instinct will slowly creep out, especially if you GOAD IT OUT LIKE A SNOOTY CAT FUCKING WITH A PITBULLsadghafgkyaefeu im speaking metaphorically, of course.....:rolleyes:

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arguing is healthy, it means you both give a shit about keeping your chemistry alive. but being straight up confrontational about shit that you know will not change is just bitchy. idunno sometimes i feel like humans have two primal instincts, fucking and killing. Spend enough time fucking someone, that other instinct will slowly creep out, especially if you GOAD IT OUT LIKE A SNOOTY CAT FUCKING WITH A PITBULLsadghafgkyaefeu im speaking metaphorically, of course.....:rolleyes:
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA:D:mrgreen::P
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It's ok the love life is back on track. Apparently she was "in a super bitchy mood" for all of last week and chose to avoid talking with me because she "didn't want to snap and say something awful" to me. Given my propensity for mockery I can sort of see where she's coming from. That being said any mean things she said I would promptly have turned into jokes.

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Drunken txts from saturday night have made my morning...interesting. I guess calling the gf irrational (in harsher terms) wasn't my brightest idea. Why it took her two days to realise she had three texts (apparently saying send, send, send to siri makes her do that) from me I don't know. 45 minutes later all is right again.

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THIS. Although' date=' sometimes men may think a woman is a"bitch" because she speaks her mind and or has an opinion, so perhaps some women would rather not go through that. Also, coming from personal experience, if in the past I ask a BF what is wrong, orrr if I ask why they chose to do something and to please talk to me about it, their answer has been "I don't know.." which can be very annoying. But yeah that not telling what is wrong to each other on both ends is really truly stupid as hell, what is the point in being in a relationship if you can't discuss things? haha[/quote'] I don't believe all relationships are doomed once you move in or marry. I think that some relationships fail when that happens because those people had problems before moving in. If you don't know how to communicate with your SO, if you fight over stupid things, if the bf just says "whatever" and the gf just nags about every detail, when you move in all that just starts to build up because you are forced to spend more hours together. And then people slowly start resenting each other, stop talking and eventually start to hate each other. Relationships are hard work , you are both 2 different adults with different life style and it takes much work, commitment and communication for it to function. Everyone has their own habits that may or may not annoy the partner, the question is if you are willing to make an effort and compromise about some things or not. But in my opinion that also depends on how much do you love the person you are with. If you enter a relationship just because the other person is nice enough, or because you don't want to be alone, it just won't work because you will not care enough to try to make it work. It is important to find someone you can see yourself with, it's important to have strong feeling about that person, and it's important he/she feels the same way, it makes things a lot easier. It's easier to accept some of their flaws, they accept yours, it somehow works. In my previous relationship, we've been together just to keep each other company, and it was awful. I tries because I'm that kind of a person, he didn't care because he knew we would brake up sooner or later. Now, I'm in a relationship for almost 3 years and we still haven't had a decent fight because we talk about everything, when I'm mad he asks why and admits if he was wrong(which most man don't do but should) and if I start nagging he tells me and I try to stop. I don't think we will be any different when me move in because we were honest from the start and we started dealing with every little thing from the beginning. Also, what most people forget, you need to discuss important matters as soon as possible, like religion, pro or anti gay or things like that, because if in 5-6 years you realize that some of your basics are too different you will not be able to talk anymore, everything will turn into a fight or a discussion. I think it's important to find someone you could still share everything after that first infatuation fades, someone who is like you in many things but different in others.
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For once I actually have Valentine's plans. I don't know why it's made out to be such a big deal because every day you get to spend with the person you love should be special but what the hell. And I totally agree Atrocity having some common interests while still having your own thing is important. As is communicating with each other.

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For once I actually have Valentine's plans. I don't know why it's made out to be such a big deal because every day you get to spend with the person you love should be special but what the hell. And I totally agree Atrocity having some common interests while still having your own thing is important. As is communicating with each other.
I never cared much for Valentine's day but this year my bf wanted us to buy each other present so I bought him the collection of Star Wars games on steam and he bought me a gaming mouse :D
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Horns up for Star Wars. I can't wait for Valentine's Day because it will be the first in my life that I will spend it with someone I love. My GF and I have been together about 6 months and have never had an argument. We had a serious disagreement once but just talked it through in a calm manner. Does this mean our relationship is unhealthy, or are we just mellowed with age (I'm 39, she's 44)?

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Horns up for Star Wars. I can't wait for Valentine's Day because it will be the first in my life that I will spend it with someone I love. My GF and I have been together about 6 months and have never had an argument. We had a serious disagreement once but just talked it through in a calm manner. Does this mean our relationship is unhealthy, or are we just mellowed with age (I'm 39, she's 44)?
I am 24 and he is 25 so I don't think it's an age thing :D it really depends on many things, some people don't know how to behave when someone disagrees with them or confronts them so they start yelling, accusing and calling names.
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You go to some WEIRD parties.....:D
I get stuck at weird parties, they always seem to take place when all I wanna do is draw and listen to the new Teramaze...actually, I was busy attempting to read about democratization in Zimbabwe when this all went down.
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It's amazing to me how long it can take to travel just a few miles here. I've had five hours of travel time today. Google maps dropped me in the middle of nowhere on my frantic extended dash to rehearsal with the string quartet, but the good news is that it was still productive. Should be meeting up with my bass player friend tomorrow, and hopefully have full band rehearsal sometime this week. Right now, I'm hanging with my son and tolerating his ongoing obsession with Garfield cartoons...

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